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		<title>Motion to Crave Oyer</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 May 2012 13:03:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In Virginia, if a lawsuit is about a contract, and the contract is not attached to the complaint, you can file a “Motion to Crave Oyer”. Whuzzat?  Forget the oyster puns.  Heard them all many years ago.  This is not &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/motion-to-crave-oyer/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In Virginia, if a lawsuit is about a contract, and the contract is not attached to the complaint, you can file a “Motion to Crave Oyer”. Whuzzat?  Forget the oyster puns.  Heard them all many years ago.  This is not a demand for oystems.  A Motion to Crave Oyer, s\Simply put, is a demand that the Plaintiff file a copy of the alleged contract with the court (and send you a copy).  Virginia is known (well-known even) for archaic terminology and pre-Civil War cases that are still good law.    God I love it!</p>
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		<title>Beware of Text Messages</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 May 2012 13:01:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I had a very interesting (and alarming) experience recently.  It had to do with authenticating text messages.  I had always thought that the way to authenticate a text message was fairly simple:  You put the recipient on the stand and &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/beware-of-text-messages/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I had a very interesting (and alarming) experience recently.  It had to do with authenticating text messages.  I had always thought that the way to authenticate a text message was fairly simple:  You put the recipient on the stand and ask the following questions:</p>
<p>Did the owner of the phone and recipient of the texts ever see them displayed on the screen?</p>
<p>&#8220;Do you recognize the subject matter of this picture?&#8221;  &#8221;Yes, it&#8217;s my cell phone.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;How do you know it&#8217;s your cell phone?&#8221;  &#8221;I was there when it was photographed.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Can you describe what is displayed on the phone?&#8221;   &#8221;It&#8217;s a text message.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Were you the recipient of this text message?&#8221;  &#8221;Yes.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Is it displayed on the phone here just as it was when you received it?&#8221;  &#8221;Yes.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Is this a fair and accurate representation of the text message as it appeared on your phone?&#8221;   &#8221;Yes.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Please read the text message for the Court.&#8221;   &#8221;It says, &#8216;I want to touch you in a way that&#8217;s illegal in at least 11 states.&#8217;&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Can you tell when the message was sent?&#8221;  &#8221;Yes.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;How?&#8221;  &#8221;It&#8217;s displayed along with the message.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;And when was it received?&#8221;  &#8221;It was received on April 1, 2011, at 1:23 p.m., just as it says on the screen.&#8221;</p>
<p>And I was done.</p>
<p>But I was talking to a tech guy and he scared me.  He took his phone and, in about 30 seconds, sent me a text from another person’s phone entirely.  I’m not sure how he did it but I now know that it’s very easy to send texts to somebody while making it look as if the texts were coming from somebody else.</p>
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		<title>The Value Of A Really Good Legal Assistant</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 May 2012 16:10:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here’s the value of a really good legal assistant (will credit to the Mother of all Hamsters–she knows who she is) Many lawyers face the problem of a client who calls many lawyers and can’t evaluate which one is best &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/the-value-of-a-really-good-legal-assistant/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Here’s the value of a really good legal assistant (will credit to the Mother of all Hamsters–she knows who she is)</p>
<p>Many lawyers face the problem of a client who calls many lawyers and can’t evaluate which one is best for the situation.  So if you can’t take their call <strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">right then</span></em></strong>, they move on.  Well the Mother of all Hamsters was talking about this and she described how a good legal assistant handles it:</p>
<p>A good secretary will establish rapport with the caller and find a way to suggest to them that, to paraphrase, &#8220;I know you&#8217;re eager to find somebody to help you with this, and you&#8217;re probably flipping through the phone book (or visiting lawyers&#8217; websites), but do yourself a favor and don&#8217;t hire anybody else until you talk to (THE BOSS).  He does a really good job in Court, and he prepares thoroughly for every case, even something relatively straightforward like a [.....] Every single case is different, and I&#8217;d hate to see you go to one of those law firms where they show up and act like your case is the same as everybody else&#8217;s, with hardly any recognition that you may have a circumstance that the lawyer needs to be sure to make the judge aware of.  So give him just a little while, please, to call you back. He&#8217;s at lunch but I expect him pretty soon. In the meantime, can you fax (or email) the paperwork to me so I can pull the statute for him?&#8221;</p>
<p>MOAH says that how your assistant says it will depend on the person&#8217;s presentation on the phone, but an intuitive secretary will find just the right tone of voice and speech pattern to create some urgency for the client to come see YOU and not the guy down the street.</p>
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		<title>Cranky Record-Keepers</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:18:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Usually I can get a 3rd party’s records by asking. Sometimes I have to file a subpoena for them (called a Subpoena Duces Tecum).  The SDT calls for the record-keeper to appear with the records at a specific date, time and place.  &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/cranky-record-keepers/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Usually I can get a 3<sup>rd</sup> party’s records by asking. Sometimes I have to file a subpoena for them (called a <em>Subpoena Duces Tecum</em>).  The SDT calls for the record-keeper to appear with the records at a specific date, time and place.  Normally I send a letter with the SDT saying that if they produce the records I will cancel the SDT.  But sometimes the other people are cranky and refuse the courtesy. So I have to appear and take the records deposition.  It doesn’t take long but it does increase the problems.  Key questions to be asking are:</p>
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<li>Name, job title, etc.</li>
<li>Are you an authorized representative of company X, with personal knowledge of   knowledge of the records/documents identified in the SDT</li>
<li>Are the records you provided copies of records maintained in the ordinary course of the business of your company?</li>
<li>Are you the custodian of the records [or a person familiar with and with access to the records] that you provided?</li>
<li>How are the records maintained, what software is used to maintain/access computer records, who has input access, what record does the system keep of who is inputting what?</li>
<li>What efforts were used to find the records?</li>
<li>What efforts were used to locate the records that can&#8217;t be located?</li>
<li>If ESI is involved, than ask them to describe the process of their electronic search?</li>
<li>Was the record was made at or near the time by — or from information transmitted by — someone with knowledge;</li>
<li>Was the record was kept in the course of a regularly conducted activity of a business, organization, occupation, or calling, whether or not for profit;</li>
<li>Was making the record was a regular practice of that activity;</li>
<li>Did you bring the records related to the issues identified in the SDT</li>
<li>Are the records you brought are true and accurate copies</li>
<li>Are the records deponent brought are every record that company X has that  are related to the issues identified in the SDT</li>
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<p>Identify each document as an exhibit on the record as needed.</p>
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		<title>It Happens All The Time</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:14:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Two people, Mary &#038; Holly create a staffing business. Business is formed as an LLC. Partners agree verbally that they will split all profits and liabilities. There is no writting Operating Agreement for the LLC. Mary has complete control of &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/it-happens-all-the-time/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Two people, Mary &#038; Holly create a staffing business. Business is formed as an LLC. Partners agree verbally that they will split all profits and liabilities.  There is no writting Operating Agreement for the LLC.  Mary has complete control of the business, agreements with thirdparties, and accounting.  Mary has not let Holly see the business’s books and the accountant is Mary’s good and close friend.  Mary has been telling Holly the business is dying.  But about six months ago, Holly negotiated a extremely large staffing agreement with a big client.  The deal fell through because the new client was dissatisfied with the financial disclosures.  Holly just found out that Mary has withdrawn roughly $200K from ATMs and over the counter from the business in the  last 18 months. Furthermore, Mary has been swiping her card for tons of personal stuff (spa, gym, house, car, breast enhancement surgery etc etc).   Mary has also not paid the employees’ withholding taxes or business’s income taxes to the IRS.  Mary’s been spending the money.   Holly is now up to her ears in trouble.   What can she do? </p>
<p>The first thing for Holly to do is get a new accountant and sue in court for an Accounting.  She will probably also have to ask for a receiver so Holly can install her own manager in place of Mary.  I would check the uniform state LLC code since that takes the place of written agreements when there is none (as in this case).  I would also look to local common law for various breaches of fiduciary duty, fraud, breach of contract, indemnity for the IRS taxes owed and punitive damages. </p>
<p>Mary will also probably need an IRS tax specialist to help negotiate with the IRS to reduce or eliminate the penalties and avoid (to the extent possible) joint and several liability for the taxes.  The accountant is also vulnerable too.  S/he should be cooperating to avoid being named as part of the coverup.  The accountant may also have malpractice insurance.</p>
<p>One thing for sure: this will be a very expensive and unpleasant trip down what a friend calls “agony lane.”  It’s ugly.  Worse, I’ve never found any way to convert this type of case into a contingency case and (too often) Mary will have spent the loot so Holly can’t even recover it.</p>
<p>I’m in the middle of this case now and it has lasted over a year already with no end in site.</p>
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		<title>Security Or Locking The Barn Door After The Horse Has Escaped</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Apr 2012 12:57:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Technology. Love it or hate it, we depend on it daily. Cell phones, computers, laptops, and now those insidious devices known as the i-Pad, i-phone or even the android. Sure, they help us keep in touch. They also make us &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/security-or-locking-the-barn-door-after-the-horse-has-escaped/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Technology. Love it or hate it, we depend on it daily. Cell phones, computers, laptops, and now those insidious devices known as the i-Pad, i-phone or even the android. Sure, they help us keep in touch. They also make us moving targets whenever we use them on the bus, subway or anywhere another person can scoop them up and run. No matter that almost every city now has laws on the books to make these sorts of crimes tougher on the criminals involved, what is lost remains lost. The heck with replacing the high tech object, the real cost is the data. How do you make sure your data on whatever device the employee had is unbreached? </p>
<p>That is the question for you and your cyber-protection provider to consider before you let another employee go out the door with a portable device. Ask your cyber guys if cloud security is your best bet for keeping your data safe.</p>
<p>P.T. Barnum’s sign “See the Egress” got many of the gawkers out of Barnum’s museum so he could get more paying people in. So when you design your training program to protect your company software and data, keep in mind that employees are a lot like those gawkers. If you pitch the program for their home data first and add in the company alongside it, your employees are more likely to show up, learn and put the practices you want them to use in place. </p>
<p>So go ahead, invite everyone in the company to participate in these programs. They will thank you for taking the time to help them protect themselves never realizing that as they protect themselves, they will be protecting your firm.</p>
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		<title>Law Firm, Police Hit By Hack Attacks; Lawyer Cell Phone Records Reportedly Accessed</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Apr 2012 13:25:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Posted Feb 6, 2012 3:00 PM CDT By Martha Neil on the ABA Journal See http://www.abajournal.com/news/article/law_firm_police_depts._struggle_to_get_back_online_after_claimed_anonymous_/ While the names are funny as hell, the issue is not, especially when first responders are targeted. I am not sure how one protects &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/law-firm-police-hit-by-hack-attacks-lawyer-cell-phone-records-reportedly-accessed/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Posted Feb 6, 2012 3:00 PM CDT<br />
By Martha Neil on the ABA Journal</p>
<p>See <a href="http://www.abajournal.com/news/article/law_firm_police_depts._struggle_to_get_back_online_after_claimed_anonymous_/" target="_blank">http://www.abajournal.com/news/article/law_firm_police_depts._struggle_to_get_back_online_after_claimed_anonymous_/</a></p>
<p>While the names are funny as hell, the issue is not, especially when first responders are targeted. I am not sure how one protects a network from these attacks which are happening world wide. I do know that it is a really big issue that every internet user needs to address.</p>
<p>Key quotes: “[C]onfidential information that seemingly was obtained in the hack attacks is getting all too much exposure. Confidential email from the Puckett &amp; Faraj website appears to be posted on YouTube, among other sites.”</p>
<p>Things could have been much worse though. We should all be careful.</p>
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		<title>Keep Track Of How Your Kid Feels</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Mar 2012 19:39:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[However, keep track of how your kid feels. If she/he is still feeling threatened, be prepared to call the bully back. Tell the bully that if he calls, texts or Facebooks your kid again, you will call the cops. When &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/keep-track-of-how-your-kid-feels/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>However, keep track of how your kid feels.</p>
<ul>
<li>If she/he is still feeling threatened, be prepared to call the bully back. Tell the bully that if he calls, texts or Facebooks your kid again, you will call the cops.</li>
<li>When the bully does any of these things, then follow through and bring in the police.</li>
<li>Once the police are involved, a police mediator will come forward to work with all the parents and their children. Keep telling your child that she or he is doing the right thing.</li>
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<p>Throughout all of this, be strong for your kid. Make sure your kid understands that by making a complaint to the police she/he is taking away the bully’s power. Teach her/him to be strong as she enters adulthood.</p>
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		<title>What Do You Do When The Attacks Are Done By Social Media Or On Cell Phones?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Mar 2012 13:21:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[How do you document this kind of bullying behavior without sounding like you are over-reacting to something that is not considered a big deal by the school? Here are a few suggestions that may help. 1. As soon as your &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/what-do-you-do-when-the-attacks-are-done-by-social-media-or-on-cell-phones/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How do you document this kind of bullying behavior without sounding like you are over-reacting to something that is not considered a big deal by the school?</p>
<p>Here are a few suggestions that may help.</p>
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1.	As soon as your child enters school, write down the name, phone and email of the school counselor for his or her grade. Update it annually.<br />
2.	Find out the cyber-bully number in your state (if there is one).<br />
3.	Take your child seriously when he/she tells you that someone is telling lies about her or him.<br />
4.	Find out how she or he is being attacked. Is it by texts, phone calls, Facebook, or in person?</p>
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<li>If the attack is on Facebook, tell your kid to let Facebook know about the bullying. Then have your child un-friend whoever is making these comments. Have her print out what was said for the record going forward.</li>
<li>If the attack is by phone text, tell her not to respond to the texts at all. Then print out the messages, again, for the record going forward. If you back up the phone on a computer (like an iPhone on iTunes) you will have a complete set of all texts sent and received.</li>
<li>If the attack shifts to the attacker calling her on the phone to tell her he/she is not threatening her, these are also threats. Tell her or him not to answer the phone call. Make a record of the calls and any messages which are left. Contact your cell phone provider for a full list of calls made and received by your teen’s cell phone. These can document a pattern of abuse.</li>
<li>Then call the counselor and tell him what is going on. This is for the record.</li>
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<p>If this works and the bully backs off, great. You can breathe a sigh of relief and feel great about teaching essential survival skills to your kid. </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Isn’t social media great?! We can stay in touch on Facebook, by Twitter or phone texting. We can get immediate input for any problems we tell each other. It is great! Or is it? Not everyone on Facebook, Twitter or &#8230; <a href="http://www.businessbrawls.com/peer-group-pressure-and-kids/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Isn’t social media great?! We can stay in touch on Facebook, by Twitter or phone texting. We can get immediate input for any problems we tell each other. It is great! Or is it? Not everyone on Facebook, Twitter or phone texting has that experience. Sometimes jealous or vindictive people use social media as weapons to bully you (or yours). Teenagers seem to do this a lot, but sometimes adults get involved too. So I thought I’d share a few thoughts.</p>
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<li>As a parent, expect your child to be vulnerable to attack. Here is a limited list of what kinds of attacks to expect. Physical, Mental &#8211; exclusion from groups, Social Media &#8211; by phone call, text message or Facebook slams.</li>
<li>And, as a parent, you may wonder why your kid? Well, for no reason at all. Or maybe it’s because your kid is swimming in a pool of different social groups at school. Your kid is (or is not) a member of a socially sanctioned group. (Sanctioned by peers anyway.)</li>
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<p>	As parents, we all want to punch the bully for hurting our kid. If you are not as aggressive as I am, then at least you want to haul her/him to the authorities. If the bullying incident is on school grounds then the school automatically gets involved. And, hopefully, the bully will be disciplined. (Probably not but you can hope.)</p>
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